Chase Arnold Hutchison

 

Well hello there.

I have spent the better part of a year trying to convince myself not to have a blog.  I find them cliche.  And why?  Why do I need to blog when I have Facebook, MySpace, multiple emails, and a plethora of networks in which I could just “put it out there?”  And who really cares?  Who gives a rat’s ass about my life, thoughts, opinions, cares, sorrows, and passions?

Well, after some consideration, I have been able to answer all the above questions previously prohibiting me.

Number one;  I can be a snobby pompous asshole:

To say anything is cliche just means that you think you are better than something or someone else.  You somehow think you can “up” the current standard or stereotype by creating something better.  Well, I have yet to come out with “Blog: Version Chase 1.0,” so I am gonna go ahead and get off my high horse about blogs and just blog my pompous ass off; and that’s a lot of ass.

Number 2;  Facebook, MySpace, and all the others are not blogs.

They are social networking thingies.  Yes, some have blogs.  But seriously, there is no way in hell that I could write an excerpt about anything without getting constantly distracted with pokes, profile updates, and top friend picks.  And don’t you all worry, I will contribute a whole post to that monster later on.

Number3;  If you have passion and care, others do too.

I have found that many things that I truly care about in life have been the direct result of other people’s passions.  Its been people’s passion to share their experiences and opinions; to share things with me that I have never before considered.  And how could you not share such wonderful acknowledgements about yourself and the world around you with others? 

Finally, the last and most important reason for this blog;  it is the greatest lesson I have learned in an entire year.  I find that the most simple lessons are the most profound, and this is no exception:

Do not argue.  Do not debate.  Do not fight.  Only consider.  For that is how we grow.

Love,

CAH

  1. Jeff
    October 16, 2009 at 4:15 pm | #1

    you’re a beautiful man. I love your blogs. I’m getting quite fond of you too.

  2. February 19, 2010 at 3:25 am | #2

    The main advantage of blogs is that you’re in control of them. You can customize them with themes and plugins (I’ve even written a few of my own) You can send trackbacks to other blogs, subscribe to their RSS or Atom feeds in a feed reader, etc. You certainly can’t do that with MySpace blogs (though you might be able to with Facebook).

  3. Will
    March 5, 2010 at 6:07 am | #3

    So cute!

  4. i dont have one
    July 31, 2010 at 12:28 am | #4

    How can you be gay and believe in Christ? Not possible.

    • jgigs
      April 22, 2011 at 4:35 am | #5

      How can you be a Christian and not know what the hell you are talking about in your religion before you condemn others…

      Not once in the New Testament does Jesus discriminate or talk against homosexuality. It is only briefly mentioned in the Old Testament.

  5. Bob Wuchte
    March 23, 2011 at 6:11 pm | #7

    Chase: Let me introduce myself first..I am your Great Uncle Bob, brother of your grandma Hutchison.. I am proud of your courage to stand up for what yu believe in and hope that you always speak out for your beliefs. Being a gay person is not a sin in my opinion and you should never be ashame. Always stand up for your rights and do whatever you feel you want to do. Good luck and perhaps someday you might be in Illinois and you could meet many of your other relatives as you know your grandma has 9 more brothers and sister.

    • March 24, 2011 at 10:09 am | #8

      What a sweet message uncle Bob :) I had a wonderful time with my Grandma (your sister) the past weekend. It is a wonderful thing to feel no shame in who you are, and I am blessed to be one of them. I would love to meet you one day, and am proud to call you family; and that term does not come often for me.

      Love,
      CAH

      • Bob Wuchte
        March 26, 2011 at 3:15 am | #9

        Chase: Glad that you responded to my message to you as it is truly the way I amd your Aunt Flo feel. If you wish send me a email and I will respond and probably enlighten you about several of your cousins, if you do not know already.Aunt Shirley thinks the world of you and sends her love. Uncle Bob

  6. Bob Wuchte
    March 31, 2011 at 9:38 am | #10

    Chase: After reading your mothers blog I feel that I must encourage you to reach out to your parents as life is to short to lose the love of your family. I remember when your father was a young man all the goodness that he always had for those around him. Without getting involved with your family business I still would say the love of family is too important to let differences destroy that. I think the month of April would be a good time to open your heart to your love ones as I said life is just too short for petty differences. Love Uncle Bob

  7. James Doyle
    April 23, 2011 at 2:04 am | #11

    So I’m pretty sure this makes me want to start a blog again. But me blogging = Fail. I last about 3 days, then it’s done. Congrats tho.

  8. June 2, 2011 at 8:51 am | #13

    Chase,
    I came across your profile while reading about the up-coming “A-List Dallas” on LogoTv. I then found your blog. I read the “e-mail” between your mother and yourself.

    Coming out and getting family acceptance can be a very tricky and frightening thing. I never had the chance to come out to my mother, but I’m very certain that she knew I was gay. She died when I was 24 and I had only recently come out a year earlier.

    My life advice for you is to never turn your back on family. Sure, there may be an impasse and words like “I never want to hear from you again”, but never keep that door fully closed. Also, remember that God does love you and use your spirituality to help find the answers and guidance you need. Look to others who share your spirituality to discuss matters. Most importantly, love yourself always. You are created the way you are and that is to love others and yourself always. Your blog is very courageous and I find it very helpful when other gay persons share their life stories and their journeys through this life. Love, peace and happiness…Paul

  9. August 22, 2011 at 1:00 am | #14

    Chase

    Howdy! I’m co-founder of Unicorn Booty, a big ol’ gay blog with over 60k Facebook fans. How might we get listed under “Gays and their rights?” Email me at nick@unicornbooty, would also love to chat about what you’re up to!

    Best,

    N

  10. Jesse T
    October 14, 2011 at 1:51 am | #15

    Chase bless your heart-

    I am not one to get on a blog often and keep up with the zig and the zag’s of reality TV, however I wanted to encourage you & Let you know you are in my prayers. In truth and love I pray even greater success, peace, and wisdom over your life my friend. Strength to overcome and stand firm and hope that right person you can grow with comes in your life- to bring comfort and release. cheers!! :) much love. Always jt

  11. Randy Fair
    October 26, 2011 at 12:35 pm | #16

    Chase,

    This is Randy Fair the long haired dude at Grace who played the pink guitar (I still have it by the way). I’ve missed you and your family over the years since we moved to Colorado. Your family was always beautiful and though we hardly talked with you guys personally, we felt like we knew you well from all your dad’s stories! I will always remember the one about your dad chasing some dude down in the car and your mom saying “Now what pastor?”

    I read some of your blogs and found them somewhat contemplative but honestly, mostly parroting. The one with your mom, of course, broke my heart, but I get it. If your cool with real discussion, then I would love a “crack” at it when you’re ready!

    Just For Fun. The Will and Grace coffee scene was hilarious. Of course, the gay part was weird for me, but now that I own a coffee shop, I can totally relate to the hyper dude!!! I had an almost out of body experience just like that with my bankers and all I could do afterwards was just say, sorry guys, I own a coffee shop and espressos are free for me…

    Anyways, you were always a good kid (don’t take that condescending – I’m just old now!) and I hope someday we can meet up again. Blessings little brother and much love.

    Randy

    • November 2, 2011 at 12:48 pm | #17

      thanks randy :) i kind of remember you, but only just a blurry face. i do remember the pink guitar! to say that you miss me and my family is very nice of you. thanks for offering a “real discussion.” however i get that from many close friends every day.

      -chase

      • Randy Fair
        November 3, 2011 at 12:04 am | #18

        Thanks bro for writing back. Many blessings, and I hope life always brings you closer to the one who loves you more than anyone ever could. By the way, my wife reminded me that I didn’t have long hair back then, so maybe that threw you off!

        -randy

  12. Troy
    November 2, 2011 at 12:13 pm | #19

    I find you to be extremely whitty and fun to watch. You’re one of those characters in a new show that you can say early on “they’ll get a spin off”.

  13. Melissa Moore Sevener
    November 19, 2011 at 10:29 pm | #20

    Hey Chase! Just wanted to tell you that I miss our lunches at Texana. We had so much fun!I think of you often, miss you a lot, and love you tons!

  14. Mike
    December 22, 2011 at 11:30 am | #21

    Chase,

    In 1980, three years before you were born :-), I met my ex at the Roundup Saloon (the year it opened). We were together until 2009 (29 years) when he finally decided that alcohol & pills were the most important things in his life and it came to a head.

    I had one really good close friend, David Johnson, that was my “running buddy” for movies, books, etc. that died in 2003 from cancer at Parkland.

    I have never *really* been alone most of my life, other than the years I was in Austin at UT and was seriously moving towards suicide in 2010. Luckily thoughts of how it would affect my mother and sisters prevented me from following thru, in addition to the silly seeming thought that I couldn’t leave my dog Mia alone. Never discount the value of the unconditional love of a pet!

    After a few years, I’m just now coming out of my shell a bit. I’m still rather anti-social outside of cyberspace. The last few months have been a lot better for me, can see a tunnel now at least, so there *might* be some light at the end of it… :-)

    I don’t drink or go to bars and usually read a couple of books a week, mostly Sci-Fi/Fantasy & lately a lot of Paranormal Romances… *grin*

    Although I was raised in the strict Independent Baptist tradition, that was not the main source of conflict growing up. It was that I was not athletic and cut from the same thread as my Ex-Marine father. My father was constantly denigrating me and I feel that he probably knew I was gay before I did. I was Most Likely to Succeed, Salutatorian, got the UT Austin Ex-Students Association scholarship for all of Dallas (1 given/competitive) and another full scholarship. I was given the distinct impression that none of my academic accomplishes mattered to him. He died at the age of 42 from heart problems due to Malaria/Rheumatic fever that he contracted in Korea. My mother told me he bragged about his Mensan son to others, but I don’t remember it being directed my way. One of my friends from High School recently told me he always felt bad that my dad seemed to treat them (the football playing crowd) more like sons than me.

    I’m not the reality show type, but was drawn in to A-List Dallas much to my consternation. I love your wit, humor and honesty. The kicker was you talking with your Aunt & Uncle during one episode. James and Ashley also evoked strong feelings in me. So did Taylor, but of the negative kind. I’m kinda neutral on Levi & Phillip :-)

    Anyway after a few years of celibacy and being self exiled in my fortress, I’m looking forward to my first date in many, many years with a really cool guy I met thru a mutual friend. He’s somewhat bearish too – my type. We’ve already had a couple of long discussions about our life’s and whats been going on. It’s gonna happen :-)

    Wishing you the best and happiest of holidays and love interacting with ya!

  15. Julie
    January 1, 2012 at 7:39 am | #22

    I “like” you on Facebook since discovering you on ‘The A-List Dallas, and I honestly don’t know how I came to find your blog ( blame it on the wine ), so it’ll be a great pleasure to get a more rounded sense of you. I’ll admit, I’ve never been one to read any blogs ( Facebook is my limit ), but you seem to come from a genuine place of honesty, and that sadly appears to be scarce now-a-days. It’s refreshing to find folks who put it all out there, warts and all, and the pompous assholes I know think they’re too “smart” to show the remotest interest in feelings. So dude, keep up the good work, ’cause you’ve GOT to know you’re changing lives and, hopefully, some peoples’ thoughts on how to live truthfully. Thanks for your words :)

  16. Joanne Shepard
    January 11, 2012 at 11:44 pm | #23

    I feel in love with you Chase watching the A-List Dallas. You are my favorite. WOW :)

    I cant wait to see what doors open up for you and will be looking for you in the future.

    Live life to the fullest

    Joanne Shepard

  17. Joanne Shepard
    January 11, 2012 at 11:46 pm | #24

    correction “Fell” in Love :)

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